This Is About The Victims

When I scroll through the endless series of blog posts and tweets, I (rightfully or wrongfully) am disappointed to see so many people trying to make this horrific tragedy about themselves.  Trying to put yourself at the site of the scene, indicating that it could have been you, your family, your friends. But you, the person writing, were likely not there.  You were not the one who has to deal with the repercussions of what happened.  You, like myself, are just one of the millions of observers – an outsider looking in.  And while we have every right to feel grief, anger, etc at what happened, I can’t help but be saddened when events like this enable people to turn the tables and make it about them.  

Do you even know what it is like to spend any period of time not knowing whether a loved one is still alive?  Do you know the range of emotions one goes through at a time like that?  I don’t think most people do.  Well, except for those who were there that day, or for those who have the unfortunate distinction of having gone through similar tragedies elsewhere.  If you haven’t been in that dark place, please don’t try to act like you were.  I can tell you from personal experience (not from this event, but from another), you simply can’t fathom what it feels like.  But again, this is not about me, or likely you.  This is about the victims.

So what I ask is to stop playing the what if game.  Stop playing the victim card.  Stop pretending like you know what it is like.  I can assure you, you don’t.  If you must, listen to those who were there.  Hear their stories.  Learn from their account and let them (if they wish to share) tell you what it was like.  They are the victims.  They are the ones who will spend the rest of their lives remembering what happened on April 15, 2013.

What can you do?  Support them.  Support the community.  Inspire others.  As runners, we are once again in the spotlight with an opportunity to shine.  Whether that means showing up with greater force at events, doing more for your community, raising money for victims – do it.  Do it all.  Because that is what we do.  We inspire others through our actions.

So in this dark moment, find your strength through reaching outward and do what you can to give back through whatever means possible.  Just because you weren’t there doesn’t mean you can’t have an impact.  We all can have an impact.  Now more than ever is your chance to make things right.  So get out there and run if you must.  But run to inspire.  Run for a cause.  Run for others who can’t.  

Life as a Sherpa - Training and Racing Through Others

After I finished Shamrock last month and spent the past couple of weeks recovering, my focus has shifted away from myself a bit and onto others I coach.  I don't talk about that side of things much, but this is more directly related since one of those people I am currently focusing on coaching is my wife.  You see, a few months ago, a bunch of her friends all decided to race the Nike Women's Half, which is coming up in 2 weeks.  To honor some family members, they all joined in as a team to raise money for the Leukemia & Lymphoma Society through TnT.  And while they provide you a "plan" to train for the race, it is a pretty bare bones one to barely get you across the finish line IMO.  Some of these ladies haven't run anything longer than a 5k or a 10k, but they all have plans to do more than just finish.  So without a real plan, I stepped up to provide them coaching, because I know that each one of these strong women are driven and motivated to do great things.  And most importantly, I simply love seeing people work hard for something they want, and ultimately achieve it.  I have no doubt that race day will be a great day for all these women.  But before we start writing the future, lets talk about the past and my recent life as a sherpa and coach.


When we first started training, I had all of these women use recent race performances to set a baseline for their training paces, because as you know, you can't just pull goals out of a hat.  After about 4-6 weeks of training, we retested to set a new baseline at a realistic level now that they all had a chance to have some consistency.  The results were astounding - they all PR'd by 1+ min in a 5k time trial, which is a large chunk of time for a 5k!  Now mind you, some of these women have been running for 6+ years, including my wife.  So when I saw their results, I was so proud to learn they were adjusting to the training I was giving them.  It was only a few moments after they were all basking in their glory of these results that I informed them of the "bad" news - all their workouts just got harder!  You see - here's the thing about training...getting faster never makes it easier, because you just adjust your paces with your fitness.  So when they all proved they were more fit than they were when they started, I adjusted their paces to be more in line with their current fitness.

Fast forward to this past weekend, which was the first real "test" since that 5k time trial.  A number of them had won entry through the lottery into Cherry Blossom, so had planned to run it in place of the designated long run for the week.  I wanted them to go into this race as a simulation for Nike.  So I spent some time writing them a race plan so they knew what to focus on, how to stay controlled, where to hold back and where to push, and how minimize distractions at a big event like Cherry Blossom.

Additionally, my wife was scheduled to run her longest run of the training cycle (13-14 miles) the same day.  And seeing how she isn't the biggest fan of running solo, let alone for such a long run, I joined her.  And so did the little man.  We linked up with some of my fellow coaches and friends, and joined them on the always enjoyable W&OD.  Having never run longer than 8 miles with him in the stroller (at my faster pace), I wasn't sure how he'd do for such a long run (likely 2+ hrs).  I also wasn't sure what it would be like pushing a stroller for that long.  Initially, I was only planning to run 8-10 of the miles, as I figured he'd only last about that long if we got lucky. So we ventured off, and shortly after, the little dude found his happy place.  As we neared where I'd have to turnaround if I was only doing 8-10, he seemed to be still well asleep and doing fine.  So we stayed together and figured I'd just take of him if he woke up and Rebecca would just continue on until she was done.  Well sure enough, around 11 miles, he woke up.  And with a few crackers brought along for just this type of situation, he was fully content to just hang out and watch the world speed by for the last 2.1 miles.  Since he was awake and we were running out of time (due to other obligations), we decided to end the run at 13.1.  Because you can't train someone to run 13.1 and end a run at 13.  That would just be cruel.

Overall, it was such an impressive day - for both the Z man and Rebecca as they both set new long distance PRs, and for the other folks who ran Cherry Blossom!  Z managed his first double digit stroller run, while Rebecca ran her longest continuous run (excluding this, since she had good reasons to slow down and walk).  As for the Cherry Blossom race, of the 3 people I coach, 2 ran 9+ minute PRs, while the other was their first 10 mile race ever!  So pumped for everyone!

But it doesn't stop there!  Tomorrow is the Monument Ave 10k, which has historically been a race we've run each of the past 6 or so years.  Last year, Rebecca didn't run it, since she was very pregnant with the Z man.  Well this year, its my turn to take off, as I will be official race sherpa and super dad!  Will she represent us well?  You'll just have to stick around to find out!

Can't wait to see these ladies rock Nike in 2 weeks - its going to be such a great time for everyone!